Private messaging & shared tools — no ads, no algorithms

One private app
for every person
you actually love.

DearUs gives couples, families, and close friends a dedicated private space — with messaging, shared photos, voice notes, a secret vault, daily check-ins, and more. Everything WhatsApp and Instagram can't do, because they weren't built for intimacy.

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Loved by thousands of couples & families worldwide
Find Your Plan

Which plan is
right for you?

Answer 3 quick questions — we'll show you exactly which DearUs plan fits your relationship and what you'll get.

Who would you mainly use DearUs with?

Pick the one that fits best — you can always add more circles later.

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My partner
A romantic partner, spouse, or significant other
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My family
Parents, siblings, kids — the ones you were born into or built
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My best friends
A close-knit friend group who deserves more than a group chat
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All of the above
Multiple relationships, each in their own private circle

What matters most to you in a private space?

You can pick the one that resonates most — or the one you don't have yet.

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Shared memories
Photos, moments, and a gallery you build together
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Daily rituals
Good morning messages, mood check-ins, and daily questions
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Deep communication
Voice notes, video, and messages that feel personal — not public
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Staying organised together
Shared lists, calendars, and coordinating life as a unit

How would you describe your situation?

This helps us show you the most relevant plan and features.

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We live or spend lots of time together
In-person most days, but digital connection still matters
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We're long distance
Different cities, time zones — distance shouldn't mean disconnected
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Just exploring for now
Not sure yet — I want to see what DearUs can do
What You Get

Everything the big apps
won't give you — in one place

DearUs is a complete private relationship platform. No ads. No algorithm deciding what your partner sees. Just the tools that actually matter for staying close.

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Private Messaging
Real-time private chat with emoji reactions. Only the people in your circle can see your messages — not advertisers, not us.
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Voice Notes
Send voice messages that actually sound like you. Warmer than a text, faster than a call. Save the ones you never want to lose.
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Private Photo Gallery
A shared photo album that's yours alone — not on Instagram, not in iCloud. Your memories, privately stored and organised together.
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Daily Check-ins & Rituals
Morning messages, daily questions, and mood sharing. Small habits that keep you close even when life gets busy. Couples love this feature.
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Shared Secret Vault
A PIN-protected, encrypted space for photos, notes, and things you only share with each other. Nobody else — including us — can open it.
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Shared Calendar
Plan dates, trips, and milestones together in one place. Sync from Google Calendar so you never miss what matters.
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Live Location Sharing
Share your real-time location with the people you trust — safe arrivals, easy meet-ups, peace of mind when it matters.
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Spotify Connect
Share what you're listening to right now. Send songs that say what words can't. Build a shared soundtrack together.
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I NEED YOUR ATTENTION PLEASE!!
Need them right now? Send an unmissable alert that bypasses Do Not Disturb. For the moments that genuinely can't wait.
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Healing Space
Going through a breakup? Stay no-contact, track your progress, and heal — with an AI companion that actually reads what you write and responds like a real person. Solo plan.
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DateBook
A shared relationship journal you build together. Log dates, milestones, and ordinary moments. Years from now, you'll want to have this.
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Birthday Awareness
DearUs knows who has a birthday today — across every circle. A warm banner greets you, upcoming birthdays show in a countdown, and 🎂 badges appear on member cards on their day.
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Solo AI Companion
On the Solo plan, your Chat tab becomes a private AI conversation — a companion that remembers context, responds warmly, and is always there. Not a chatbot. A real presence.
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Coworker Circle
A private work circle for the team behind the team. Shared tasks, team notes, availability status, and group chat — all separate from your personal circles and away from Slack's noise.
Healing Space

Going through a
breakup? We've got you.

The Healing Space is a private, judgment-free tool designed for one thing: helping you stay no-contact and actually move forward. Day counter, milestone celebrations, grounding exercises, breathing tools, and an AI companion that responds like a real person — not a script. Available exclusively on DearUs.

🩹 No-contact day counter 🌿 Grounding exercises 📅 Healing milestone timeline 💬 AI companion (powered by Claude) 🫁 Breathing & calm tools 🌱 Milestone celebrations

Included on Solo, Family & Friendship plans — starting at just $4.99/mo.

Day 14 · No Contact
14 days strong
You
I keep wanting to text them. It's 2am and I can't stop thinking about everything we said.
Healing AI
2am is its own kind of lonely — and your brain is doing exactly what brains do when they miss someone. The urge to reach out is real and it makes complete sense. Before you do anything, just stay here for a minute. What's actually underneath the urge — is it missing them, or missing the version of things you thought you'd have?
You
Both I think. I don't know. I just feel so alone.
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Two weeks. That's not nothing.
Every day you held the line, you chose yourself.
DateBook

A journal of your
relationship, built together

DateBook is a shared relationship journal you and your circle build together. Log your first date, last Sunday's hike, the fight you got through, the Tuesday that meant everything. Attach photos. Add notes. Build an archive of your relationship you'll actually read back through — years from now, you'll be so glad you did.

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Log any moment
Add entries for dates, milestones, trips, arguments resolved, silly inside jokes — anything that made up your story.
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Shared or solo
Write entries together or keep your own perspective alongside theirs. Both voices, one story.
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Photos attached
Attach photos from your gallery to any entry. Give context to the images that would otherwise just be a date in a camera roll.
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Searchable history
Find any memory by date, tag, or keyword. Your whole relationship, actually findable.
Circles

Separate private spaces
for every relationship

DearUs isn't just for couples. Create a dedicated circle for your partner, your family, your closest friends — each completely private and separate. One subscription, every relationship that matters.

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Couple Circle
Romantic
A private home for two. Daily check-ins, a shared secret vault, love notes, voice messages, and a photo gallery — everything you need to stay genuinely close, whether you're across town or across the world.
Daily check-ins Shared vault Love notes Anniversary tracker Mood sharing Long distance mode
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Family Circle
Family
One private space for the whole family — shared calendar, group chat, shopping lists, photo gallery, and location sharing. Everything that scattered across texts, WhatsApp groups, and iCloud, finally in one place.
Group chat Shared calendar Shopping lists Birthday reminders Healing Space Up to 6 members
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Friendship Circle
Friends
For the friend group that deserves better than a group chat. Private messaging, shared gallery, birthday reminders, event planning, and voice notes — with zero ads and zero algorithm deciding what anyone sees.
Group messaging Shared gallery Birthday countdowns Healing Space Invite codes
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Polycule Circle
Open
Built for every relationship structure. A private, named space for polycules and chosen families — with all the same tools: group chat, vault, check-ins, and location sharing. Your structure, your space.
Flexible structure Custom naming Group chat Shared vault Up to 8 members
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Coworker Circle
Work
A private work circle away from Slack's noise. Shared tasks with assignees, team notes, availability status, and group chat — for the small team that actually does the work together.
Shared task list Team notes Availability status Group chat Invite codes
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Solo Circle
Solo
For when it's just you. A private AI companion to talk to, a personal milestone date to track your journey, the Healing Space to help you heal, and your own vault and diary — all yours alone.
AI companion chat Healing Space Personal vault Milestone tracker Private diary
How It Works

Set up in 2 minutes.
Stay close for years.

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Sign up in 30 seconds
Create your free account with just an email. No social login, no phone number required. Your account, your way.
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Invite your people
Get a 6-character invite code and share it. Your partner, family, or friends join instantly — they don't even need the app to get started.
Your circle is live
Start messaging, sharing photos, setting up daily check-ins, and building your private space together. Everything is ready immediately.
What Members Say

Real people.
Real results.

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We're long distance and DearUs completely changed how we stay connected. The daily check-ins make it feel like we're in the same room.
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Mia & Jordan
Long distance · 8 months
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I set up a family circle for my parents and siblings. Now my mum actually knows what's going on in my life. This is the family group chat, but good.
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Priya S.
Family circle · 12 members
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We moved from WhatsApp to DearUs for our friend group and genuinely never looked back. No ads, no algorithm, just us.
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The Rooftop Crew
Friendship circle · 6 members
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I got the solo plan to help me through my breakup. The Healing Space is unlike anything I've seen in an app — the AI actually responds like it read what I said. I'm on day 31 and I haven't texted him once.
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Camille R.
Solo plan · Healing journey
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The DateBook is everything. We've been together 4 years and I went back and added every date from memory. Now it's this actual archive of us. I cried a little. Highly recommend.
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Theo & Ines
Couple circle · 4 years
Our Story

Built from love.
Kept alive through it.

DearUs began the way most things worth building do — in the middle of a relationship, in the middle of the night, trying to solve a real problem.

She and He were building something together. Not just DearUs — a life, a vision, a private world they were proud of. They believed that the people closest to you deserve more than a group chat buried inside an app designed to keep you scrolling. They wanted something honest. Something that actually held the weight of real intimacy.

Then he left.

She kept building.

And somewhere in the grief of losing a partner and the stubborn refusal to lose the dream too, the Healing Space was born. Because she needed it. Because maybe you do too.

DearUs exists because love is worth protecting — and because healing from the loss of it is one of the hardest, most necessary things a person can do.

“We wanted a place that held the weight of real intimacy — not a feed, not an algorithm, not a platform that profits from your most private moments. Just a home for the people you love.”
The Founder
Creator of DearUs
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Built together
DearUs started as a shared dream — a private world for people who love each other.
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He left
Life changed. The relationship ended. The mission didn't.
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She kept going
Because the people you love still deserve a real home. And so do you.
Pricing

Less than a coffee.
For every relationship you have.

All plans include every feature — messaging, vault, gallery, check-ins, calendar, and more. You choose the plan based on how many people are in your circle.

🎉 3-day free trial on every plan — no charge today
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Solo
Just for you — diary, vault & healing
$4.99/mo
Billed monthly · Cancel anytime
  • Every feature unlocked
  • Private diary & secret vault
  • Personal calendar
  • Healing Space + AI companion
  • Up to 3 circles
  • Zero ads, forever
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Friends
For close friend groups up to 4
$11.99/mo
Billed monthly · Cancel anytime
  • Everything in Solo
  • Up to 4 members
  • Group circles & chat
  • Shared shopping lists
  • Group calendar & event planning
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Family
For families — up to 7 members
$19.99/mo
Billed monthly · Cancel anytime
  • Everything in Friends
  • Up to 7 members
  • Live location sharing
  • Family circle features
  • Priority support
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Polycule
For any group structure — up to 8
$29.99/mo
Billed monthly · Cancel anytime
  • Everything in Family
  • Up to 8 members
  • Flexible relationship structures
  • Custom circle names & settings
  • Advanced permissions
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Coworker
For teams & close colleagues
$49.99/mo
Billed monthly · Cancel anytime
  • Everything in Polycule
  • Up to 10 members
  • Work-safe feature set
  • Admin controls
  • Dedicated support

Free trial included · Secure payments via Stripe · Cancel anytime, no questions asked

Your Privacy, Guaranteed

We don't sell your
relationship to advertisers

DearUs makes money from subscriptions — not from your data. What happens in your circle stays in your circle. No ads targeting you based on what you said to your partner. No algorithm. No social graph. Just the people you invited.

Read Privacy Policy → Terms of Service →
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End-to-end encrypted vault
Your most private content is locked behind a PIN only you control — we cannot read it.
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Zero ad targeting
Your relationship data is never used for advertising. We make money from subscriptions, full stop.
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No social graph
We don't map your relationships, suggest connections, or share who you're connected to. Ever.
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Your data, your rules
Delete your account and all associated data at any time. No dark patterns, no retention tricks.
FAQ

Everything you need
to know before you start

DearUs is a private app for your closest relationships. It combines private messaging, a shared photo gallery, a secret vault, daily check-ins, a shared calendar, voice notes, live location, and more — all in one place, with zero ads and no algorithm. Think of it as a private home for each relationship that matters to you: your partner, your family, your closest friends.
WhatsApp and iMessage are general-purpose messaging apps. DearUs is built specifically for intimate relationships — with daily check-ins, shared vaults, a couple journal (DateBook), mood sharing, a secret encrypted vault, relationship milestones, and a Healing Space for breakups. None of that exists on WhatsApp. And unlike Meta's apps, we don't use your conversations to serve you ads.
After you create your account, you get a 6-character invite code. Share it with your person — they sign up for a free account, enter the code, and join your circle instantly. The whole process takes under 2 minutes and no app download is required to get started.
Yes — and this is one of the best things about DearUs. You can have a private couple circle with your partner, a separate family circle with your family, and a friendship circle with your friends. Each is completely sealed from the others — your partner doesn't see your family chat, and vice versa. One subscription covers all of them.
Yes. DearUs is not a social network — there are no public profiles, no feeds, and no discovery. Your circles are completely private. Your vault is PIN-protected and encrypted; we cannot open it. We do not sell your data and do not use your conversations for advertising. Our business model is subscriptions, not data.
Your data is kept safe. You'll keep read access to your history and photos, but live features like chat and real-time sync will pause until you resubscribe. You can export or permanently delete all your data at any time — no dark patterns, no retention tricks.
DearUs runs beautifully in any mobile browser — open it on your phone and tap "Add to Home Screen" for a full app-like experience with no download required. An Android app is available and an iOS app is coming soon.
Absolutely. DearUs was built for every kind of love and every kind of relationship structure — couples, polycules, chosen families, and beyond. You name your circle, you define the relationship. We just give you the tools.
The Healing Space is a private tool for anyone going through a breakup who has committed to staying no contact. It includes a no-contact day counter, healing milestone celebrations, grounding exercises, breathing tools, and an AI companion (powered by Claude) that responds like a real person — not a script. Available on Solo, Family, and Friendship plans from $4.99/mo. It's not therapy, but it's designed to hold you while you find your footing.
DateBook is a shared relationship journal you build together. Log dates, milestones, trips, ordinary moments that mattered. Attach photos, add notes, and build a searchable archive of your whole relationship — years from now, you'll want to have this. Available on all paid plans.
Your closest relationships
deserve a real home —
not just a group chat.

Start your private circle today. No ads, no algorithm, no data selling — just the people you chose and everything you need to stay genuinely close. From $4.99/mo. Cancel anytime.

For Couples

The private couple app built for real intimacy — not social media. Daily check-ins, shared vault, voice notes, a secret photo gallery, and anniversary tracking. Perfect for long-distance relationships and couples who want to stay genuinely close without Big Tech in the middle.

For Families

A private family messaging app that replaces scattered group chats. Shared calendar, shopping lists, photo gallery, and live location — all in one private space your family actually owns. No ads, no strangers, no algorithm.

For Close Friends

A private group messaging app for people who are done with WhatsApp, group texts, and Instagram DMs. No ads, no algorithm deciding what your friends see. Just your circle, your memories, and your plans — privately.

Healing After a Breakup

A private no-contact tracker and breakup support app with an AI companion powered by Claude. Track your healing milestones, use grounding and breathing exercises, and stay no-contact — with a tool that actually responds like it understands. Available from $4.99/mo.

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Features & Alternatives

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